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The Preemie Primer: Recommended Reading for Mamas on Bedrest
September 2nd, 2010When you are pregnant, you are bombarded with information and advertisements for everything from infant swaddling blankets, to formulas, to cord blood banking, to strollers. Much of the information that I received in my bag at each of my first obstetrical visits was useless. They were simply little leaflets trying to sell me things that I didn’t really want or need. How much better it would have been if I had received a copy of The Preemie Primer: A Complete Guide for Parents of Premature Babies-From Birth Through the Toddler Years and Beyond.
The Preemie Primer was written by Jennifer Gunter, MD, a board certified obstetrician/gynecologist, who is also board certified in pain medicine and board certified in physical medicine and rehabilitation. At a first glance it seems like Dr. Gunter is yet another “expert” telling you what the “scientific evidence” says you should do for your baby. While Gunter offers comprehensive information on caring for a premature infant, the book is far from dry and overly ‘jargoned’. At its best it is a deeply personal account of how Jennifer Gunter, wife and mother, navigated the peaks and valleys of caring for her markedly premature boys Oliver and Victor (born at 26 weeks) while also grieving the loss of their triplet brother Aidan, born at 22 weeks. She is simply sharing what she learned and knows with other parents and has created a powerful resource for parents of preemies.
Now I don’t want to discount Dr. Gunter’s knowledge. She has done a great job of pulling together the necessary medical information pertaining to preterm labor, prematurity and caring for mom and baby (ies) post partum. But the honest truth is that much of the “medical” information is freely available-on the web and in books and texts. But The Preemie Primer is for parents of preemies who, at a time when this information is in critical need, they dont’ have a nanosecond to spare seeking it out. Part of what makes it such an excellent resource is that not only is the medical information readily at hand in one place, Dr. Gunter also includes information on self care for parents (asking for help with post partum depression for example, deep breathing, meditating…) and navigating the complex US insurance system to get the care premature babies and children desperately need. Yes, the chapters on “The Mind-Body Connection” and “Making the System Work for You” were really helpful and informative and a welcome departure from the sterile statistics, instructions and definitions.
But far and away the “precious jewel” of this book is that it is written by Jennifer Gunter, wife and mother to two 
navigated the peaks and valleys of caring for her markedly premature boys Oliver and Victor (born at 26 weeks) while also grieving the loss of their triplet brother Aidan, born at 22 weeks.premature little boys and an angel in heaven. The success of The Preemie Primer results from the fact that as I read it, I felt as if I was sitting across from Jennifer Gunter, drinking coffee and chatting as she tells her story. I think the most powerful parts of the book are the gray insets that tell her personal story, her personal struggles to care for her living boys while at the same time grieving her angel Aidan. The times she was so overwhelmed with emotions that all she could do was cry. At those times her credentials were irrelevant. She was a mom, struggling for herself and for her sons, and as vulnerable as the rest of us.
One of my favorite vignettes was her conversation with the hospital representative as she disputed charges for Aidan. Anyone who has ever had the frustration of speaking with hospital representatives who are insensitive, unyielding and basically ignorant to medical procedures will totally relate to this conversation. Gunter was arguing to have charges made for Aidan’s “care” removed from her hospital bill. You feel the pang in your own heart as you hear Gunter tell this representative that Aidan died and did not receive care as is indicated on the bill.
While I like and highly recommend The Preemie Primer (Remember, I said it should be in every new OB bag!), I realize it is a tough sell. In the same way that obstetricians don’t discuss the possibility of bed rest until a woman is having it prescribed, I doubt The Preemie Primer will become recommended reading for mainstream pregnancy. And this is unfortunate. Having had a late preterm birth, I would have loved to have had even an inkling of what to expect. As high risk as I was, no one ever even mentioned that I was at risk for preterm labor. I was never counseled about the signs and symptoms of preterm labor. When I delivered my daugher at 36 wks and 6 d, I fully expected to have her put on my chest, to nurse her and then to have her in my room. Instead she was whisked away from me by nurses and neonatologists and then admitted to the NICU (which is never mentioned or visited in hospital tours). I was completely blind-sided by the entire experience.
Our culture likes to “stay positive” and always “look on the bright side”. But turning a blind eye to potential catastrophe is just plain stupid. No woman wants bed rest, a premature infant or, heaven forbid, to have a stillbirth. But the reality is that these events happen. Just because we don’t talk about them or “don’t have that in my family or medical history” doesn’t mean that they can’t happen to us. Obstetricians and midwives should talk about them (at the very least) and give parents tools and resources that they can readily access in the event that the most awful and unexpected happens. So yes, I do think that The Preemie Primer should be put in OB bags-or made readily available in OB offices, hospital gift shops, family resource centers and the like.
We have to face the fact that not everyone has the picture perfect pregnancy, labor and delivery. But things needn’t spiral completely out of control. Research shows that patients who feel that their health care providers are honest and up front with them, explaining every test and treatment and potential outcome are far less likely to come away with ill feelings or to sue their providers. We have to have the hard conversations. But if OB’s and midwives don’t want to do that, or feel uncomfortable or as if they are “scaring” their patients, then have resources readily available. As Dr. Gunter said herself during our podcast interview, “Plan for the worst but expect the best”.
The Preemie Primer is available on this website via our Amazon.com store in the Infancy/Childhood section. We respectfully ask that if you decide to purchase The Preemie Primer as a result of reading this blog post or listening to the podcast interview with Dr. Gunter that you do so via our store as it helps to fund the operation of this website.
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Mamas on Bedrest: Should Breastfeeding be the Law?
August 4th, 2010
Mamas around the US are weighing in on the “Breastfeeding should be mandatory”statement declared by supermodel Gisele Bundchen. Mamas on Bedrest, Should Breastfeeding be the law?
There are many reasons that mothers should be encouraged to breastfeed their babies. First of all, breastmilk contains antibodies that are protective to the newborn. We all know that a newborn has a very sensitive, immature immune system. Breast Milk contains many of the antibodies and protective agents from the mother that protect the newborn from illness and disease until its own immune system becomes more competent. Research has shown that babies who breastfeed exclusively for at least 6 months have a lower incidence of allergies, ear infections and other childhood illnesses. The following are many of the cited health benefits (from www.womenshealth.gov and www.aap.org):
Breastmilk adapts to meet the nutritional needs of the nursing child. The initial colostrum that feeds a newborn is dramatically different from the mature breast milk that nourishes a nursing toddler. Yet at each stage, breast milk is just the right composition of protein, carbohydrates, fats and water needed to meet the nutritional needs of the nursing child. Breast Milk also has enzymes that make it easier to digest so that there is little to no stomach upset in the child.
And one can’t deny the economics of breastfeeding. Breast Milk is free. It is always ready, no mixing necessary and it is always the right temperature. Some breastfeeding advocates has gone so far as to say that low income women should be forced to breastfeed. Low income, less educated women are less likely than women of higher economic and educational status to breastfeed. Their children are also more likely to have frequent ear infections, allergies, asthma and other childhood illnesses. Proponents state that educating and encouraging lower income and less educated women to breastfeed their babies could reduce healthcare costs and improve the long term health, intelligence and well-being of lower income children. (There is currently no data to support these claims)
But opponents of mandatory breastfeeding state that breastfeeding is not for every mom. Many women cite pain, inability to produce sufficient quantities of milk, lack of support for breastfeeding amongst their famiies and friends, work schedules and feeling embarrassed while nursing as reasons they did not breastfeed for very long or at all. Still, breastfeeding has many benefits for mama as well including:
- Reduced risk of breast, ovarian, cervical, and endometrial cancers
- Reduced risk of anemia
- Protection against osteoporosis and hip fracture in later life
- Reduced risk of mortality for women with rheumatoid arthritis has bee associated with total time of lactation
- Helps mother’s body return to its pre-pregnancy state faster-promotes weigh loss; 1/2 of calories needed to make milk is pulled from fat stores
- Helps delay return of fertility and to space subsequent pregnancies
- Moms miss less time from work due to child related illnesses
- Helps the uterus contract after birth to control postpartum bleeding
And althoug it is not listed here, breastfeeding has been linked to reduction in post partum depression. (Read our previous blog posts -April and May 2010-on the topic!)
US culture does not support breastfeeding as evidenced by restaurants and other public establishments banning breastfeeding or banishing breastfeeding mothers to restrooms to feed their babies. Breastfeeding mothers have had to file lawsuits to be able to breastfeed their babies or to have breastfeeding/breast pumping areas available in their workplace. The US’s lack of paid maternity leave makes it nearly impossible for new mothers to establish breastfeeding. When faced with the choice of staying home to breastfeed and/or adjusting their work environments or schedules in order to breastfeed, many women are not only unwilling but are also unable to make such concessions. Many women say they won’t have a job to come back to and can’t put their entire family’s security in jeopardy.
The breastfeeding debate will wage on and every mama will have to decide for herself what is the best method of feeding her baby. Since August is World Breastfeeding Month, Mamas on Bedrest, take this time on bedrest to consider what is the best method for you to feed your baby and if it is breastfeeding, gather your resources and support now. Mamas on Bedrest & Beyond is pleased to offer several resources for breastfeeding mamas on our website as well as in our Amazon.com store.
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5 Tips to Enhance Your Post Bed Rest, Post Partum Walking Program.
July 22nd, 2010As many of you know I have been traveling around the country with my kids visiting family and friends for the past several weeks. Early on I wrote a blog describing how many new mamas were working diligently to regain their pre-pregnancy physiques in a park in East Tennessee. These mamas were walking and while I wholeheartedly support their efforts, observing them prompted me to write Walking Gets Mama into Shape After Bedrest giving 4 tips on how to start a walking program after being a mama on bed rest.
I’ve thought about those mamas and the many others I’ve seen along my journey. The gentle strolls around the park are a good start, but if they want to enhance their effort, they should incorporate these 5 tips into their walking programs.
- Increase the duration of the workouts. Many new mamas, especially mamas who had been on bed rest prior to delivery, start out only able to walk for just a few minutes. But as you get stronger, try to exercise for longer durations. Walking for 30-45 minutes daily at a moderate pace will increase cardiovascular health, increase leg muscle tone and will aid in weight loss when combined with a reduced calorie diet.
- Increase the intensity of the workouts. Now that you are stronger, press yourself a bit. Walk faster and see if you can cover the same distance in a shorter amount of time. Vary your route. If you typically walk in a flat park, try to find a route that has a few small hills. Increasing the intensity of your workouts will increase your cardiovascular health, improve your muscle tone and will increase your energy expenditure . This is important if your goal is to lose weight. To lose weight you must burn/expend more calories than your take in. So walking more intensely will burn more calories than strolling.Walking a more strenuous course will increase muscle tone in your legs. The more muscle you have, thttp://www.mamasonbedrest.com/wp-admin/post.php?action=edit&post=1418he more calories you burn. Combined with a reduced calorie diet, you will be more likely to lose your pregnancy weight faster and keep it off.
- Practice contracting and holding in your abdominal muscles while you walk. One of the most common complaints of post partum women is the “poochie belly”. The abdominal muscles are so stretched from pregnancy that they must be rehabilitated not only to regain the flat pre-pregnancy belly but also to improve posture and to increase core muscle strength. While walking, draw your abdominal muscles in, pulling your navel to your spine. DO NOT HOLD YOUR BREATH!! Hold for 1-2 seconds and release. Repeat several times during your walk. Gradually increase the amount of time you are able to hold your abs in while you walk. With practice, you will be able to hold you abs in for an entire walk.
- Do Kegel Exercises while you walk. Kegels are also important exercises to help strengthen the core as well as the pelvic floor muscles. Several repetitions should be performed several times a day in order to strengthen the pelvic floor, strengthen the core, reduce incontinence and reduce the incidence of organ prolapse. Our blog post Kegels: Essential Exercises for Mamas on Bed Rest gives a full explanation of the benefits of Kegels as well as how to do them.
- Get Support. Numerous studies have shown that exercise and weight loss efforts are enhanced when people, especially women, have a partner. When I was walking in the park and watching the mamas walk, I was really pleased to see a dad walking alongside a new mama. While working out with a significant other can have its challenges, it can also draw a couple closer, an added benefit for new parents who may be feeling stressed.
What are your tips for working out post partum? Please share with our community by posting in the comments section below.
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